Thank You

To all the participants in Blogapalooza - Thank You!

To all those who read any of the recent posts by my guest bloggers, I hope you enjoyed what you read. If you missed one, here again is the list with links. I provided titles where ones were given:

Anne Jackson - The Power of Words

Dawn Fehr

Fred Von Kamecke - Is It Just My Karma?

Sarah Apperson - Coping or Overcoming?

Paul Wilkinson

Hanna Apperson - Love

Dave Lloyd - Going To See Darlene

Stanley Groothof - Going Public

Andrew Farley - Forgiven or Cleansed, or Not?

Clay Crosse

Angela Bond - Wiping Out Locusts

Blogapalooza - Angela Bond

Welcome to Blogapalooza.

I want you to meet some new people. I asked various friends and bloggers to share with you this month on my blog. So, all through the month of June I will feature different voices from around the world. Today I would like to introduce you to:

Angela Bond

Somehow Angela and I are related. Her husband's sister married my wife's brother. We are shirt-tail relatives. Angela is a bit of a prophet though she might not admit it. God has used her to speak wisdom into our lives and she has a habit of getting to the truth and heart of any matter. She is a friend and a dear sister in the Lord. I want to encourage you to read these words of wisdom.

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Wiping out Locusts

I will restore what the locusts have taken. Joel 2:25

I just got back from a run. At 6:00 this morning I ran for 20 minutes without stopping for the first time. I don't mean for the first time in a few years, or since high school; I mean for the first time ever in my life. This is something I didn't think I'd ever be able to do.

You see, I'm not the athletic type.

In elementary school, I dreaded “picking teams” becasue I was always the last one picked. Often I was even picked after the fat kid with one eye.(I mean last!) And it wasn't just because I was unpopular. No, I was an undesirable team-mate because I was the kid who ran slowly, fell down, and got the ball in the face, every time.

In high school I was in modified PE. I had athsma. I couldn't run. When I was 14 I injured my knee and was told I would never run. Not much of a loss, really. I couldn't do it anyways.

I always believed I was just built that way. God built people in different shapes and sizes. Maybe I can't run, but I can do things that other people can't do. I'm gimpy and clumsy, but I'm smart. No big deal, right?

A short time ago my doctor allowed me to repeal my solemn promise to never ever, under any circumstances even think about trying to run, jog, bounce or jump. I'd renewed the promise when I started exercising about a year ago, but things seemed to be improving, in spite of a condition which “eats” cartilidge.

So for the last few months I've been running (well, it sort of resembles running – I'm talking about miracles here, not athletic form!) It's been a slow progression – I've been following a program of walking and running that slowly increases running time. It took me 2½ months to finish the first 2 weeks!

I'm telling you this because I don't want you to think that my healing was handed to me on a silver platter while I sat on the couch and wondered where God was. I know it happens that way sometimes, but it didn't work that way for me.

God did meet me on the couch – His love and healing is unconditional; He showed me His grace and goodness and compassion, and taught me to be thankful in spite of the pain. But much of the actual physical healing has come, in my case, with effort.

Again, I want to be clear: I didn't do this – there are changes in my body which I could not have brought about – and God's love and healing does not depend on my effort. But in this case, the changes didn't happen until I believed, and started acting accordingly (with permission and supervision of my doctor.)

Let's fast forward to this morning's happy dance in the middle of the street. I felt as though God had restored something that had been lost to me. But it's not what you think.

It is a miracle for me to run and not stop. It is an immeasurable blessing to really believe for the very first time, that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Not just the things that I think I can do. It changes everything.

Still, the real miracle is what happened at the end of my run. First He gave me the answer to my recent prayers, and caused me to celebrate and praise Him, publicly and unashamedly without regard to who might be watching. I was just so excited, so joyful, that I did a happy dance and lifted up my hands and gave a great big thankyou right there in the street and didn't feel even remotely self conscious. (I danced like David, except with clothes on.) He answered my prayer.

But then He answered another one, so deep and serious and huge that it's hard to say out loud, even when I pray.

I did my happy dance, I took a deep breath and then I realized that what I wanted to do more than anything was to run home to tell my husband.

I won't go into details except to say that being married is hard – it's good, but hard. I thought God gave me a new ability, a physical healing, renewed faith and confidence, and He did. But what He restored, the real desire of my heart, the real thing I had lost that the locusts had eaten in the years of sickness and worry and loss was an ease and joy with my husband.

I thought God was restoring my body. But He is restoring my heart for my husband.


Where would I be if I did not believe I would see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living? Ps 27:13

Blogapalooza - Clay Crosse

Welcome to Blogapalooza.

I want you to meet some new people. I asked various friends and bloggers to share with you this month on my blog. So, all through the month of June I will feature different voices from around the world. Today I would like to introduce you to...

Clay Crosse

I was familiar with Clay Crosse, the award winning singer. It was not until I read his book, I Surrender All, written with his wife Renee, that I became familiar with Clay the author and ministry leader. This led me to their ministry website, Holy Homes which I would encourage all of you to check out. Clay was a guest on 5 Questions With... and he took time out of his busy schedule to share some thoughts with you during Blogapalooza.

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Some friends of ours recently were out on a drive with their children when their eight year old daughter saw something out the window that caught her eye. “Hey Mommy, look! That place is called The Pony! What’s The Pony?” she asked. “Is that some cool restaurant? I want to go to The Pony!”

The little girl didn’t know that The Pony is actually a strip club. I can understand the awkwardness of the situation as her dad tried to explain such a place to his daughter.

As parents we are all faced with these unexpected instances from time to time. An image or person or place presents itself in full view of our children and we are forced to keep our composure and define it for what it is. The thing is, we’d rather not. After all, they’re so young and shouldn’t have to know about such evil. We wish that we could simply shield our children from the darkness of the world…but we can’t. The tough questions from our little will continue.

“Hey Daddy, why did those two policemen have to get shot and killed by those bad men?”

“Mommy, what does a hooker do?”

“Why isn’t there enough food for everyone in the world?

“Dad, what does rape mean?

“What’s suicide?”

“Mommy that sign said ‘Adult Gifts and Movies.’ When I grow up, then can I have adult gifts and movies too?”

“Daddy, what is an STD? I heard those letters on a commercial today?”

Pretty awkward huh? Any one of these questions could have come from a child simply playing with their toys in the floor within earshot of any TV or radio broadcast or peering out the car window at a random billboard passing by.

So what do we do, turn off all TVs and radios and put blinders on our kids while in public? Of course not. Our kids live in the same dark world that we do and there’s no way to completely hide such from them. There will be many voices and images that they encounter along the way.

The point to grasp is that as their parent, no voice is stronger than yours. No voice touches deeper. No voice last longer in their memory. No voice is more special in their heart than the voice of Mom and Dad.

Through our ministry HolyHomes, (holyhomes.org) Renee and I challenge homes to really take stock of what is coming in via all entertainment sources. We should make wise choices in terms of our TV, movies, music, and online activity. But as I have pointed out, negative things just find their way to our children and they will naturally ask honest questions about them. God has entrusted us, as parents, to be the voice of truth and wisdom in the lives of our children. They may not realize it, but they desperately need us to point them to the truth through God’s word.

With our children we can enjoy a world that is beautiful and has amazingly loving people everywhere. At the very same time though we are reminded daily that this same world has deeply sinful and sad elements. This darkness will not go unnoticed by precious little eyes and ears.

Mom and Dad, speak wisdom. Speak love. Speak hope. Speak forgiveness. Speak truth.

Blogapalooza - Andrew Farley

Welcome to Blogapalooza.

I want you to meet some new people. I asked various friends and bloggers to share with you this month on my blog. So, all through the month of June I will feature different voices from around the world. Today I would like to introduce you to...

Andrew Farley

I was first introduced to Andrew via his book, The Naked Gospel which I reviewed on this site. Andrew was one of my guests on 5 Questions with...Andrew has graciously excerpted part of his book here for Blogapalooza. I would encourage you to read it and then go buy a copy of the book asap. You should also check out Andrew's ministry site: Ecclesia, Church Without Religion where he is the lead teaching pastor. Andrew is working on more books as you read this.

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Forgiven and Cleansed, Or Not?

an excerpt from The Naked Gospel (Zondervan)

by Andrew Farley

We Christians are totally forgiven of all our sins, no matter what.

Wait.

What about 1 John 1:9—“If we confess our sins, [God] is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness”? At first glance, this well-known verse appears to muddy the waters concerning once-for-all forgiveness. In many books and articles on the topic of forgiveness, this verse often serves as the foundation on which the author’s belief system is constructed.

Theologians and Christian authors will often agree with John that “your sins have been forgiven on account of [Jesus’] name” (1 John 2:12). But later you find them essentially saying that confession is needed to cause God to forgive you. The problem is that both statements can’t be true at the same time. Either we’ve been forgiven, or there’s a condition for us to be forgiven.

To resolve this dilemma, some Christian thinkers have proposed the following: Christians are forgiven eternally in God’s heavenly record books. However, unless Christians keep short accounts with God through daily confession of sins, they can’t experience God’s cleansing during life on earth. Hence, they claim that 1 John 1:9 is the believer’s “bar of soap” to maintain daily fellowship with God. And they use terms such as judicial, patriarchal, and forensic as they delicately dance around the reality of once-for-all forgiveness and push the idea of a two-tiered forgiveness system in which eternally God is satisfied, but right now we somehow maintain our own daily cleansing through a confession ritual.

This line of thinking is nothing short of rampant today in Christian teaching, and 1 John 1:9 is their one and only hallmark verse. Note that if verse 9 were not to mean what they claim it means (a daily “bar of soap” for Christians), the entire theology they have crafted would fall to pieces. Seminaries around the world warn us not to develop theologies based principally around one verse, but this has been an unfortunate exception among scholars and pastor-teachers alike.

First, it’s important to recognize that this verse stands as the only one of its kind. No other verse in the epistles appears to place a conditional “if” on forgiveness and cleansing. So if there was a method for maintaining daily cleansing, the Romans were unaware of it. If there was a prescription for keeping short accounts with God, the Galatians had no exposure to it. If there was a need to ask God for forgiveness, the Ephesians weren’t privy to it. Similarly, the Corinthians, Philippians, Colossians, and Thessalonians also missed this teaching.

If there were a daily method to maintain good status (fellowship) with God through ongoing confession of sins or pleas for forgiveness, wouldn’t you think it’d be mentioned in at least one epistle? Did God accidentally leave it out? Certainly not! The fact is that we must take a closer look at 1 John 1:9 to understand John’s intended audience and the context of this peculiar verse.

Heresy!

From the beginning of John’s first chapter, we see him addressing prominent heresies in the early church. John begins his letter with words such as heard, seen, looked at, and touched to describe his interactions with Jesus. He does this to emphasize the physicality of Jesus.

Today, we take for granted that Jesus was physical. Of course he was! No argument there. But two millennia ago early forms of Gnostic thought infiltrated the church and popularized the idea that Jesus was only spirit. Early Gnostics claimed that God would never stoop so low as to take on human flesh. So the apostle John purposely uses physical words in his opening statement to challenge this Gnostic heresy. Later, he says that anyone who doesn’t believe that Jesus came in human flesh is not from God (1 John 4:3).

If that’s the case, then who was John’s audience in his first chapter? True believers don’t claim that Jesus lacked a physical body. So John is notIf we claim to be without sin correcting believers in his opening statement. He’s addressing Gnostics who had infiltrated the early church and were teaching false doctrines. After establishing the physicality of Jesus, John then writes, “, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us” (1 John 1:8, italics added).

Why is John now concerned about those who claim they’re sinless? Do you know any true believers today who say they’ve never sinned? Of course not! What’s the first step to becoming a believer in Christ? The first step is to admit you’re a sinner. Someone who claims that they have never sinned is not a Christian. So here John is concerned for unbelievers.

Interestingly, early Gnostic philosophers didn’t just deny the physicality of Jesus; they also denied the reality of sin. Gnostics claimed that sin wasn’t real or didn’t matter, since it took place in the physical world. So John opens his letter by attacking two Gnostic heresies: (1) Jesus as non-physical, and (2) sin as a non-reality.

Understanding John’s purpose in opening his letter this way is crucial. A poor interpretation of verse 9 leads many Christians astray. Again, verse 9 declares, “If we confess our sins, [God] is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.”

Some claim that this verse must refer to Christians, since John uses the word we. If that were true, one should hold that all preceding and following verses using we also refer to Christians. But this isn’t the case.

John uses we to politely combat Gnostic heresy. We see this technique in the following:

*If we claim to be without sin … (1 John 1:8)

*If we claim we have not sinned … (1 John 1:10)

Similarly, John uses the word us to draw conclusions such as these:

*the truth is not in us (1 John 1:8)

*God’s] word is not in us (1 John 1:10 NASB)

Is John referring to believers here? When referring to people who don’t have the truth in them or God’s word in them, does he include himself and the church in that group? Certainly not! John is politely saying that if we humans claim we have no sin, we’re liars and don’t have Christ (the Word and the Truth) in us. Clearly, John is talking about unbelievers.

So if an unbeliever has bought into the heresy of sinless perfection, what’s the only sensible solution? Let’s reread verse 9 to see if we can get John’s intent: “If we confess our sins, [God] is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.”

Verse 9 is a remedy for unbelievers who have been influenced by Gnostic peer pressure and are now claiming sinless perfection. John is essentially asking, “Instead of claiming that you have no sin, will you consider changing your mind? Instead of claiming you’ve never sinned, how about agreeing with God?” He’s inviting Gnostic heretics to rethink their point of view. If they’ll admit their sinfulness, then God can do a saving work in their lives.

So 1 John 1:9 is an invitation to become a Christian. And it certainly holds relevance today. If anyone claims to be without sin, they’re wrong. But there’s a solution to their misguided thinking. If they’re willing to change their mind and confess the opposite (that they do have sins), then there’s hope.

Did you notice that this verse declares they’d be purified from allall unrighteousness is reminiscent of forgiveness passages elsewhere in the epistles. Here, John isn’t asking for a one-by-one tallying of our sins in order for Christians to stay forgiven and cleansed. That would be ludicrous, given the impossibility for any human to truly comply! unrighteousness? The phrase

Think about it. You’ve already committed thousands of sins that you’ve forgotten about. You can’t possibly remember them in order to confess them and become forgiven for them. That’s why Christians have to be purified from all unrighteousness—once and for all!

Our Daily Bar of Soap

This contextualized interpretation of verse 9 may be new to some who have viewed the passage as a prescription for Christians who just committed an individual sin. First John 1:9 has been their “bar of soap” routine to stay cleansed and in fellowship with God.

What a tragedy! In adopting this view, we fail to acknowledge that only blood (not words) brings forgiveness. We miss the fact that Jesus’ once-for-all blood sacrifice brought lifelong cleansing. So we dialogue with God to feel forgiven and cleansed. This feeling serves as our confirmation that God just forgave us. But some aren’t able to conjure up this feeling. And as a result they end up doubting their forgiveness!

Confession Clarified

Let’s clarify an important point. The meaning of confess is “to say the same as” or “to agree.” Believers should agree with God on all counts—not just about sins but about everything. Although we don’t confess our sins in order to receive new portions of forgiveness and cleansing, we should still agree with God concerning the folly of sin. We’re his children, and it is only his ways that fulfill. We’re designed from the ground up to agree with him, depend on him, and live from him.

But it’s equally important to recognize that we don’t impel God or put him into motion through our confession. He’s not waiting to dole out forgiveness or cleansing. We don’t need to keep “short accounts” with God, since he has destroyed the record book!

God has taken away our sins. He remembers them no more. As believers, our forgiveness and cleansing aren’t dependent on our memory, our confession, or our asking. Our forgiveness and cleansing are solely because of the finished work of Jesus Christ.

The Other Confession

Sure, James talks about confessing our sins to each other and praying for each other (James 5:16). But he’s saying we should listen to each other’s struggles, offer counsel where appropriate, and pray for each other. The context of James’s exhortation to confess our sins to each other has nothing to do with God’s forgiving or cleansing us.

Confession to trusted friends and to God is healthy. It’s normal and natural to talk about your struggles with people who care about you. The indispensable truth to grasp, however, is that confession does not initiate cleansing in your life. We’ve already been cleansed “once for all” through the onetime blood sacrifice that needs no repeating.

Let’s be honest about our struggles, but let’s also be clear about what the cross accomplished.

Protestants and Catholics

Protestants may claim they’re more biblical than their Catholic peers, since the epistles contain no grounds for confessing sins to a priest in order to be forgiven. Some Protestants may even laugh at the idea of a confession booth or the ritual of going to Mass in order to obtain forgiveness. But these same Protestants may ritualistically apply 1 John 1:9 as their spiritual bar of soap. Is one view of forgiveness really any better than the other?

The Catholic goes to a priest, and the Protestant thinks he does better by appealing directly to God. But any system that doesn’t factor in once-for-all forgiveness is intrinsically flawed.

God doesn’t want us to think that human priests apportion forgiveness to us. Nor does he want us to envision his doling out forgiveness from heaven on a “first come, first serve” basis! Instead, he wants us to ascribe real meaning to Jesus’ declaration, “It is finished.”

Only then will we turn from sins for the right reason. Our motivation shouldn’t be to obtain forgiveness in return. We’re already forgiven and cleansed children of the living God. Our motivation should be the fulfillment that comes from truly being ourselves.

Blogapalooza - Stanley Groothof

Welcome to Blogapalooza.

I want you to meet some new people. I asked various friends and bloggers to share with you this month on my blog. So, all through the month of June I will feature different voices from around the world. Today I would like to introduce you to...

Stanley Groothof

Stanley is a fellow Pastor here in the Bulkley Valley where I live. More than that he has become a brother and a friend. Stanley and his wife are very friendly, caring and unassuming. You can;t help but smile when you talk with them. Stanley started blogging awhile back and his blog is now one of my destination reads. Read this piece Stanley sent and then check out his blog!

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Going Public

There comes a time when you’ve got to admit to yourself, to God, and to others who you are and in whom you ultimately find your identity. While you can think of this simply as a requirement, it’s also a natural progression of growth: It’s just gonna happen.

For example, consider Obadiah (the man in charge of evil King Ahab’s palace, not the prophet who wrote a book in the Old Testament). Until his encounter with Elijah, he’s able to live a double life. On the outside, he is loyal to Baal-worshipping, believer-killing King Ahab; but on the inside, he is “a devout believer in the LORD.” So thoroughly is he committed to the true God of Israel that he is willing to risk his career, his prominence, even his life to hide faithful Israelites whose heads Queen Jezebel is collecting, it seems, not unlike how people collect coins or stamps. But through this all, Obadiah’s true allegiance remains a big secret. No one knows.

Except God.

And the day comes when God asks Obadiah to finally reveal who (and whose) He really is. Elijah, God’s prophet, asks Obadiah to let King Ahab know that he’s back in town after a bone-dry, 3-year hiatus that has made Ahab & Jezebel’s god Baal – a.k.a. lord of the rain – look like a nincompoop.

Obadiah responds to Elijah’s request by saying, “What have I done wrong that you are handing your servant over to Ahab to be put to death?” In other words, “Let me tell you what’s going to happen when I tell old Ahab that I saw you: He’ll demand to know why I didn’t kill you, Elijah, or at least drag you in the dust to his feet. Ahab’s red-hot mad that God is humiliating his precious Baal. When he realizes that the two of us are in cahoots, that your God is also my God, my head’s going to be added to Jezebel’s collection!”

Elijah encourages frightened Obadiah to trust him. But this is a huge step for Obadiah. Until now, things have been comfortable – everything okay on the outside while secretly knowing the truth on the inside. But now that truth is getting out. It’s time for the outside to more closely match the inside, and that spells trouble.

This is the natural progression for everyone who is led by the Holy Spirit. You may have asked Jesus into your heart, but He’s not content to just quietly sit there. He wants to transform your heart, yes, but also your mind, your words, your feelings, your actions. As we grow in faith, the way we live, act and behave must and will increasingly look more Christlike until we cannot help but go public and say, “Well, yes, I do in fact love and follow Jesus!”

Is that a frightening prospect? Quite likely. It will cost you. Yet in this life and the next, you’ll gain far, far more than anything you lose. The presence of your faithful God and knowing you’re His beloved child cannot compare to anything else.

It turns out that Obadiah trusts Elijah. He goes public. As we are led by Jesus’ Holy Spirit, may we find more and more ways to do the same.

The Bible doesn’t say what happens next to Obadiah, but I think it’s safe to say that things get less boring and real interesting.

You can count on that particular blessing happening to you, too.

Blogapalooza - Dave Lloyd

Welcome to Blogapalooza.

I want you to meet some new people. I asked various friends and bloggers to share with you this month on my blog. So, all through the month of June I will feature different voices from around the world. Today I would like to introduce you to...

Dave Lloyd

I first met Dave on the mission field. Dave and his wife, Ev, joined the staff of YWAM Croatia around the same time that my wife and I did. Dave helped shape my vision and passion for non-traditional church all those years ago. I still recall some of the conversations we had about ministry. Time and seasons have passed and now Dave and his wife live in Florida. Dave has been writing a blog and I wanted you to get to know him a bit through his writing. (FYI, Dave is writing a book as well!) Read this piece Dave sent and then check out his blog!

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Going to See Darlene

First of all, thanks Rick for the invite to share on your blog. I appreciate your love and friendship through the years, and this opportunity is a gift for which I'm truly grateful.

Earlier this evening I announced to my wife, "I'm going to see Darlene." Lemme 'splain.

A church I pastored for a while (that just closed) had an unusual sense of marketing and evangelism. One of the things we did was give away koozies. For the uninitiated, a koozie is something you put a beverage in to keep it cool. We live in Florida after all. On the outside of the koozie it said "CrossBridge Church. The church with the free koozies." We gave out hundreds of them.

Now, obviously many people use koozies for beer. But they also use them for soft drinks and to hold their pencils and pens. Anyway, people thought it was funny to have a koozie from a church. That was the point.

Close to my house is a liquor store. One night shortly after the church started public meetings, I visited the drive-through window and after making my purchase I gave them 4-5 koozies for all the employees. They were amused, as was my hope, and I got to tell them about our church.

A week or so later I went through the drive through again. I was trying to get there before the store closed and I was barefoot and in my pajama pants. One of the employees heard me and ran up to the window, "Are you that preacher?" I answered in the affirmative, and she told me that her husband passed away that morning." She came to work anyway because her fellow employees were her primary social support system. Her name is Darlene.

I prayed with Darlene through the window of the liquor store, since I was...uhhh...underdressed. I made a point of seeing her frequently over the next few weeks. God touched her life through this experience, and He touched mine too. She even came to church with us for a while.

Since then I've gotten to know a couple of the other ladies who work there. When I drive through their faces light up and they always ask about my family. It's not unusual for us to get into a conversation about God and His love for us.

Everybody is looking for some love. Everybody. Darlene and her co-workers have been judged enough by Christians who feel it is their job to be the moral police of the world. But these ladies responded when someone finally treated them with respect and dignity, listening to their hearts and becoming aware of their needs. I think that's how Jesus was. He was a friend of sinners. He was judged because of the company he kept. But He loved well.

Here's the deal. I'm Darlene. You're Darlene. We all have hurts and needs and none of us are perfect. There are things about all of us that (if known) would make us the recipients of criticism and judgment from others. But Jesus didn't judge us, only loved us. When He came to us He was going to see Darlene.

Blogapalooza - Hanna Apperson

Welcome to Blogapalooza.

I want you to meet some new people. I asked various friends and bloggers to share with you this month on my blog. So, all through the month of June I will feature different voices from around the world. Today I would like to introduce you to...

My Daughter: Hanna Apperson

Hanna was born in 1998. She gave her life to the Lord at the age of 6 and has been growing in Christ ever since. She approached me with this devotional of her own accord recently and I wanted to share it with you.

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LOVE

Love is patient,
Love is kind.
It does not envy,
it does not boast,
It is not proud.
It is not rude,
It is not self-seeking,
It is not easily angered,
It keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil
but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts,
Always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.
1 Cor. 13: 4-8

Love is patient, Love is kind, love is gentle, love is merciful...and these are but a few descriptions of God.

God is a wonderful God, and I personally would love it if I could radiate all of these things everyday, at the same time. However, I can't. For only our wonderful God can really do that. I can do some of these things however, because I do have God's love in my heart.

Love comes from God and, because He lives in me, I can love. Do you have love? If you do not, PLEASE just ask God for that love and you will have it to. He loved us so much that He sent His Son, Jesus, to die on the cross so that we could have love.