Why Men Cheat

Let me clear up any confusion about why men cheat. 

Despite what some ministers and authors may tell you, the real reason men cheat can be boiled down to one, three letter word.

The reason: SIN

Let me give you some background to why I am writing about this.

Last week I came across a video clip of Pat Robertson answering a question on his show, the 700 Club.  I will go ahead and post it here.

Now, as much as I disagree with Pat Robertson, he is not the first minister or author I have heard who has laid the blame for husbands cheating at the feet of the wife.  I almost didn't post the video because I did not want o focus on Robertson himself, but on this viewpoint in general.

A few things come to mind when I hear this line of thinking that women should do more for their husbands so they won't stray. 

First, it's not Scriptural.  There is no Scriptural justification to the line of thinking that a man strays because the women is not keeping the "home fires burning."  Let me point out a passage of Scripture that addresses why men cheat.  It is found in the book of Genesis.  Eve has believed the enemies lies and eats the fruit God forbid them to eat.  Adam then CHOSE to eat that fruit as well.  Adam made a choice.  He CHOSE to disobey God.

Men, and women for that matter, cheat because they make a CHOICE to disobey God and to no longer stay faithful to their spouse.  That choice to sin cannot be laid at anyone else's door. 

Secondly, to blame the women for a husbands moral failure does a disservice to the victim.  I wish more Christians would practice active listening instead of feeling the need to run off at the mouth and blame the victim of someone else's sinful choices. 

Finally, by saying that men have a tendency to wander, as Pat Robertson implied, is just plain offensive.  Not every man chooses or is tempted to sin in this way.  However, we all (men and women) are tempted to sin.

"No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it."  1 Corinthians 10:13

That way out is to turn to the Father!  It is to run to the King of Kings, dig into His Word, and to pray without ceasing.  Surround yourself with other believers and seek their prayers as well.  When one is finding satisfaction in Christ, he won't need to search elsewhere for satisfaction.

"But if serving the LORD seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD." Joshua 24:15

The choice is yours.

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