Sex is wonderful. I believe Christians can and should have an active and vibrant sex life. We live in a sex-drenched society and yet, many believers still shy away from this topic. What is it about sex that frightens believers?
The Song of Solomon is a perfect example. This is one of the most amorous books in the Bible. The passion displayed in this book was cutting edge for it's time. The couple refers to their love for each other; they describe what appeals to them about each others bodies and their longing for one another. This is a perfect example of what married love should be like.
Yet, the first churches I attended as a teen, talked about Solomon's spiritual allusions to Christ's love for the church. Now I'm not saying that's not there, but as a teen I really needed to hear that God wants married love to be, in a word, EXCITING. Instead sex was the taboo word! Never talk about it, ignore it, suppress it, deny it!
Yeah-- that doesn't work for teens. Instead, I believe we should address it. In proper settings our teens need to know that sex is incredible within the confines of marriage. Outside those confines it IS messy. People get hurt, mistakes get made, sin happens.
Sex sells. Let's sell it to believers. I believe the Song of Solomon is there for a reason. To tell believers SEX IS OK! Romance, Passion and Sex were created by God.
Of course there is more to marriage than sex. Romance should happen throughout the day. Giving gifts, a touch, a spoken word, mowing the lawn, and doing dishes can all say "I love you" to your spouse. Consider one another, love one another and let God be glorified! As Dr. Kevin Leman says, "sex begins in the kitchen."
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Thanks for sharing this, Rick and for checking out my blog. Means a lot.
Thanks Matthew. For those of you who missed it Matthew has been talking about this topic all week on his blog!
I think that sex is not as important as people make it seem. You can have it with anyone at anytime. It's like hugging or kissing or shaking hands. It's just sex.
Sex is exciting and a gift from God. There is a connection between a husband and wife when sex happens on a level that you can't reach by just shaking hands!
Sex is an important part of marriage but NOT the MOST important part of marriage. There are other equally important ways to bond, grow closer and be intimate with your spouse despite what the "30 Days of HOT SEX!!" sermon series tell you.
I think if the sex isn't good, no quantity is going to help unless you address the underlying issues outside the bedroom.
How about "30 DAYS OF SELF-LESS LOVE FOR YOUR SPOUSE"? I think sex should follow that.
Which is why I said:
Of course there is more to marriage than sex. Romance should happen throughout the day. Giving gifts, a touch, a spoken word, mowing the lawn, and doing dishes can all say "I love you" to your spouse. Consider one another, love one another and let God be glorified! As Dr. Kevin Leman says, "sex begins in the kitchen."
However I agree it is not the most important part but it is a part many couple short change themselves in!
However many couple can't have sex due to medical reasons, etc and the passion can still be there and still be exhibited in the marriage for sure!
I must say its still a hot subject, scarey for some, just another thing for others. Still the best approach is a Godly one. “Talk” yes talk about The Good The Bad and The Ugly parts of it. If it’s spoken about in love correctly, truthfully and with out condemnation God’s word will prevail.
Mmm, shaking hands- *shivers with anticipation* Now THAT'S gettin' yer grove on!
I think the reason sex is so important is that in order to have an amazing sex life (I'm talking about having sex more than once a week here, guys, come on!), a lot of other aspects of the relationship have to be focused on: communication, service, etc. I know that when I'm looking forward to getting funky with my lady, I'm always extra careful to treat her special- and it's a nice circle there, since the more I treat her good, the more amazing my sex life gets. Of course, it works both ways as well- it takes two to tango, ya know!
@Bill - I agree with you on that one.
@RustyBadger - yes but being extra careful to your spouse special should be a regular thing not just when you want something!
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