Sex is wonderful. I believe Christians can and should have an active and vibrant sex life. We live in a sex-drenched society and yet, many believers still shy away from this topic. What is it about sex that frightens believers?
The Song of Solomon is a perfect example. This is one of the most amorous books in the Bible. The passion displayed in this book was cutting edge for it's time. The couple refers to their love for each other; they describe what appeals to them about each others bodies and their longing for one another. This is a perfect example of what married love should be like.
Yet, the first churches I attended as a teen, talked about Solomon's spiritual allusions to Christ's love for the church. Now I'm not saying that's not there, but as a teen I really needed to hear that God wants married love to be, in a word, EXCITING. Instead sex was the taboo word! Never talk about it, ignore it, suppress it, deny it!
Yeah-- that doesn't work for teens. Instead, I believe we should address it. In proper settings our teens need to know that sex is incredible within the confines of marriage. Outside those confines it IS messy. People get hurt, mistakes get made, sin happens.
Sex sells. Let's sell it to believers. I believe the Song of Solomon is there for a reason. To tell believers SEX IS OK! Romance, Passion and Sex were created by God.
Of course there is more to marriage than sex. Romance should happen throughout the day. Giving gifts, a touch, a spoken word, mowing the lawn, and doing dishes can all say "I love you" to your spouse. Consider one another, love one another and let God be glorified! As Dr. Kevin Leman says, "sex begins in the kitchen."